Are you feeling vulnerable right now because you’re on an emotional rollercoaster?
Ups and downs because you’re in menopause, this yucky stage of life for most of us?
Do you feel like you always have to be the strong woman? At work, for your partner, for you kids, extended family and friends?
If so, welcome to the club. My club, that is.
It was the club I unconsciously set up many, many years ago.
When I got divorced I had to work and take care of my kids. Nothing special, many women do that. But furthermore I had to be strong. I had this mindset that you have to work hard always and you don’t moan. Something taught at home when I was young.
Therefore I worked, I took care of the kids, I tried several times to be a good partner and didn’t moan much. Lol.
Asking for help was another big issue. If I was strong and I didn’t moan, how could I possibly ask for help?
Uhuh. Not. Me!
I needed to be good and effective. Do you know where this leads to?
To being a perfectionist.
Being a perfectionist isn’t good. Because good, isn’t good enough ever, it always has to be better. Fortunately by working a lot on my personal development, I came to the realization that perfectionism only held me back, didn’t let me progress.
I let go.
I let myself be ‘only’ good.
I love myself a lot more now. Knowing that I don’t have to be perfect. That I have my flaws and I’m perfectly fine with it.
And last week I shared my flaws with my master mind group. I got vulnerable because I knew I had a safe space in which I could share my beliefs, my flaws, my doubts and insecurities. This is so very important!
You need a space like this, where you can be you.
Where you aren’t judged.
Where you don’t have to appear bigger than you are.
Where you are supported.
Know that I provide this same space for my clients. Where you can share anything that worries you. That keep you small, unhappy, unhealthy, uncertain.
Are you struggling at this moment with your perfectionism, and the ‘I have to be strong you’ is struggling with asking for help?
Don’t ask for help, just click here and let’s have a chat 😉
With love and health,