How is 2020 going for you?
Did you make New Year’s resolutions? And did you stick to them?
If you’re amongst the majority, I suppose you will answer with, I fell off the wagon….
The truth is a lot of goals that are set at the beginning of the year aren’t met and normally are abandoned in the first 6 weeks after the beginning of the year and a lot of times we are left with this feeling of failure.
Why is it so difficult to follow through? Why is it that every year we really want to make it happen but some way or another, it just didn’t work?
A reason could be because you thought you could build on your will power. And the fact is, will power only goes that far. We have a certain amount of will power and depending on how much things we want to change, it will end sooner or later .
Maybe you set too big a goal and it just wasn’t realistic or maybe it was too vague.
Another thing is that we slip back into our old habits. We start enthusiastically but then we don’t make a real plan, life gets in the way and we go back to our default status and we forget about the things we wanted to change.
Here are some tips to stay true to any goal you might set:
- come up with a plan, when and where to build a habit
- be specific (I will meditate every day at 7am in the morning for …. minutes )
- build up, don’t set very big goals because that gets overwhelming. Do things that might look tiny, e.g. meditate for 1 minute a day, work out for 5 or 10 minutes a day and then when you have that into your system go further
- don’t make your goals all or nothing. So if you have set yourself the goal to lose weight and then you might have a night out with your friends, you drink and eat too much… Then don’t think ‘oh well, now I’m done, I didn’t follow my diet so what the hack’!. Noooooo, think that this has been just one night and just get back to your diet the next day.
When you mess up and you don’t follow through, don’t beat yourself up but try again and try better.
James Clear (the author of building Atomic Habits) says, never miss twice. So you mess up once, then you get back to your goal.
It’s all too easy to give up and let go.
Look for your why and make it big enough so it’s easier to continue.
My biggest drive are my kids and grandson. I want to be healthy, vital and self-loving, to be able to be with them for the longest time possible and to do whatever I want to do with enough energy and vitality.
Another thing you can do, is to get some accountability. So if you’re planning on working out a couple of times per week in the morning, ask a friend to go with you.
This way when you don’t feel like going, you will go anyway because obviously you don’t want to be a jerk, letting your friend wait in the park at 7 in the morning 😉
Another possibility is to hire a coach. Me for example.
Just saying ;-P
Get on a call with me so we can figure out what’s needed in your case. All free of charge and pressure, just a nice chat. First step to action now, is to click here and book a session.
On a last note; I think it all comes down to not trying to be perfect. Also remember you have got the whole year to set goals and to reach goals. No need to do this only once a year.
Set a goal, make a clear plan and try to do this the best you can. Goal setting is a process and most of all, remember to enjoy the journey towards your goal!!
With love and health,