The other day I had a conversation with my best friend and he told me it was World Kissing Day. First I thought he was making fun of me but it was actually true.

Kissing is not only a form of showing love and affection but it’s also good for the immune system. We pass on a lot of bacteria we have in the mouth to the other person which makes the diversity of bacteria bigger, which then leads to a better immune system. We also pass enzymes we got in the mouth, which too is beneficial and kissing can prevent cavities.

Apart from this, kissing brings a lot more benefits, for example it lowers your anxiety and stress, lowers your blood pressure and it’s like a treadmill for your face, all muscles are involved and it gives you a nice workout and it increases your sex drive.

Talking about this lead me to mention another study I heard about, which is a related topic. It turns out that in Holland people used to make love about 2 times a week but a new study this year says it has now lowered to only 3 times a month! Isn’t this horrible?   In Britain and the USA  it isn’t much better either.

Reasons are the internet, social media, work, young children, disease, tiredness and distractions. Pretty daunting huh? It seems that we’re doing whatever else, then being with our other significant, engaging in intimate moments which bring so much good to our lives.

Kissing, love and sex bring intimacy in a relationship. It bonds and releases endorphins, the feel good chemicals, dopamine and oxytocin.  It will bring you joy, a calm state of mind, and all the advantages above mentioned. It gives you a beautiful skin and a good sex session will let you glow afterwards.

If you ask people if they like sex and intimacy, I bet only a few would say no. So why are figures going down then?  Are we that busy so we don’t make time for it? Don’t we set priorities? 

Maybe it’s about time to stop and think.  There are so many things we haven’t been taught at school, which are compulsory subjects in life, and we just try to make the best of it.

If you’re in a relationship with somebody who you dearly love but you’re also struggling with the above mentioned, maybe you want to carve out some time and think about your relationship. 

Some questions you might want to ask yourself:

• ♡ Where am I in my relationship?
• ♡ Where do I want to go?
• ♡ Is my relationship my top 1 priority? 
• ♡ Do I want to put work into my relationship?
• ♡ What kind of actions can I take?

Remember that in order to be in a healthy state, you want to take action in a lot of areas of your life and your relationships are a very important part of that. Be conscious of your acts and try to do everything possible to be the best version of yourself.

And if you’re struggling yourself with your relationship and you need a hand or some guidance, don’t hesitate to schedule a free call with me to work it out.

With love and health,

Monique